"We teach people how to treat us by the way we respond to them." Christine Hassler
I heard this quote on a recent podcast by the amazing Christine Hassler, and it really resonated with me. It got me thinking about communication and relationships, the way that we interact with people and how that impacts our relationships with others. Having reflected on my own life and my interactions with others, I recognised patterns and reoccurring experiences which had been impacting my life. My need to be liked, loved and valued as a person was stemming from a need to be validated by others. The problem with this is that when we seek external validation we come across as needy and unsure of ourselves. We give away our power to others who may not have our best interests at heart! Especially as an emotional empath, it is easy to lose emotional energy to those that seek that energy, love and emotions to boost themselves. This circle of needing acceptance, external validation and striving for perfection in order to feel worthy and accepted will likely mean that you to continue to attract the same people and experiences in your life. Continuing this cycle not only causes pain, suffering and a feeling of hopelessness.
It's easy to think that life happens to us, but in actual fact it happens for us. We are not victims of our circumstances, but rather we have the ability to manifest our truest desires and make them a reality. There is a lesson in everything that we feel, learn and experience, and it's up to us to engage in and learn from the wisdom the universe is trying to impart on us. Read More