When it comes to our emotional health it is so important that we have daily practices that will help to balance and also keep our emotions healthy. Too many of us get caught in the business of life that we forget to check in with ourselves and see if the things we are doing, people we spend our time with and experiences we have actually light us up. When we are unhappy we are more likely to have unhealthy habits, addictions and coping mechanisms to get ourselves through the pain that we feel. Because these behaviours are often so unconscious and we may feel like we are coping we don't realise the impact that our underlying emotional pain could be affecting our life. Drinking every weekend just to get yourself through the next week, shopping and spending all your hard earned money or even just eating too much because subconsciously you are emotionally drained can have many long lasting effects on your life.
So today I want to share with you 3 effective and great tools you can incorporate into your daily life that will help you to clear unwanted emotions, create more happiness and emotional balance in your life. Just like exercise (or movement as I like to call it) is so important for our physical health, these practices are super important for your emotional health. Think of these practices as building your emotional health muscle.
Daily Check In With Your Emotions
Creating a daily ritual of checking in with your emotions is super important for creating emotional balance in your life. The simple act of tuning into your body and feeling into emotions will help you in a number of ways. So how do you do this? Easier said than done right?
1. Prioritise your day according to your mental and emotional health.
If you work full time and you don't have flexibility to schedule your day around how you are feeling, you can still prioritise your work accordingly. The best way to do this I have found is to create a bit of a planner and to do list that has a list of key items that you must get done in that day. You can then add to this by adding any additional items that you should get done but if they don't happen that day you can proritise and put these at the top of your list the next day. So if you are feeling sensitive or just lacking your usual energy create this list and work through each item one by one. Not only does this help reduce overwhelm it also will help you be more productive and reduce the amount of time you waste. The other great thing about prioritising your day based on your emotional and mental health is that it will help create positivity and the energy that you are kicking goals. When we're feeling down and not our usual selves motivation can be a real struggle so this will help give you a positive boost.
2. Self Care
When we have awareness around how we are feeling we can adjust our self care practice accordingly. On days where we feel a bit run down, tired or even stressed we know we need to turn up our self care to support and attend to our emotional needs. This might mean you take a hot bath full of magnesium salts to calm and soothe your muscles and central nervous system, having an early night, reading a book and drinking some herbal tea or diffusing some essential oils while you have a mini meditation. It's all about finding what works for you, what you enjoy doing and what self care really helps to make you feel good.
So how do we cultivate a daily self check in with our emotions?
Personally I find a quick check in 3 times a day so beneficial. It's super quick and easy and because you are doing it morning, mid day and night you can really reflect on and navigate how you are feeling.
A great habit or ritual to create first thing when you wake up is to take a couple of deep breaths, feel into your body and establish how you are feeling. We very often forget that the way we feel first thing in the morning has the ability to make or break our whole day if we do not have awareness around how we are feeling. By taking the time first thing to tune into your feelings you create awareness around your emotions, have the ability to acknowledge them and also be intentional around how you are going to use your emotions and energy for the rest of the day.
Another great thing to do first thing in the morning is some journaling. By doing some writing first thing you are able to get thoughts out of your head and onto the page. The best way (although for me the hardest-perfectionist queen right here) is to just write down exactly what comes to mind, even if it makes no sense whatsoever. By having your thoughts out on paper the more clarity and awareness you will have around your thoughts. And because our thoughts first thing in the morning have so much influence around how we potentially will move through our day the better it is to clear any negativity/doubts.
It's the middle of the day, you're stressed out at work and don't really have time for lunch. You want to push through so that you can get all your work done in time but you know you should probably take a break so that you can focus for the rest of the day. Or you may be in the car driving to a meeting, you're tired and worried you are going to be late but you get a coffee and push through the afternoon. Both of these situations are regular occurrences for people and while they are busy and possibly tight for time by taking just a couple of minutes out to tune into your body and feel your feelings you are not only going to be able to relax and refocus, you will also create awareness around how you are feeling. By creating this routine while you are out and about it will become easier and easier every day to tune in to your body and check in with yourself. Our body is constantly giving us feedback and signalling to us whether a situation is negative or positive and it does so through our feelings and other sensations in the body. By creating this awareness you will find it easier to check in with yourself in any situation and make decisions based on the feedback your body is giving you.
A great way to tune into your body and feelings is through journaling or a meditation. A mindfulness meditation such as the body scan is the perfect way to connect to and tune into your body. It not only relaxes you but also creates the perfect space for you to really tap into the signals your body is giving you. The body scan meditation is also a great way to ground yourself and de-stress. Why not try creating a night time ritual that allows for time to journal or do a quick meditation? Adding a gratitude practice will also help you to create some perspective around your life and be truly grateful for how you're feeling.
By taking the time everyday to connect with and tune into your emotions you create the space for emotional awareness and healing. When we understand our emotions, create awareness and let them be a part of our day to day life we stop resisting emotions. To create emotional balance it's important to have great compassion and understanding for ourselves and to remember that our emotions are always there guiding us through situations. It is our internal compass which we can harness throughout life.
I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. What do you do to keep your emotional health balanced?