When I first stumbled across Melissa Ambrosini's blog (The Path to Wellness) 3 years ago I knew it was going to be the beginning of a new journey for me. I would spent hours scrolling through her blog reading her posts and learning about her personal journey. Her words touched me deeply and I related so much to what she had been through. I remember one night sitting on my balcony enjoying the beautiful sunset and reading another one of her posts. This post was all about self love and how to create a self love practice. What now seems so ingrained in my way of thinking and a regular practice in my life, self love at the time was something that was as foreign as another language. I'd never really head of the term 'self love' and didn't have a clue what it was all about, all I knew was that I didn't have any.
At the time I was in a new relationship, I was still at uni finishing my degree and was nearing what I now know was the beginning of my spiritual awakening. I'd spent years following the rules, playing it safe, doing what I thought was going to bring me health, happiness and ultimately this vision of a 'perfect life'. As time went on I knew there was more to life and the limitations that I had placed on myself. Melissa and her inspirational words helped me see my potential. She helped me remember who I am, what I am worthy of and most importantly to follow my dreams. It's been a roller coaster 3 years since I found Melissa's blog but I know it has all been part of the universe's bigger plan for me.
It was at Melissa's Perth 'Step It Up' workshop in 2013 that I met the beautiful Claire Baker and Emily Ehlers who were studying to become health coaches with IIN. I had been passionate about health and wellness for a long time and had been searching for a course that could help me to combine me passions with my teaching degree. By February 2014 I was enrolled in IIN and started the journey to becoming a health and wellness coach. While the journey certainly hasn't always been easy now each day I feel inspired and truly connected to my purpose. I am so grateful for Melissa and her courage to share her story with the world, and she has inspired me to do the same.
Last week on Thursday I was lucky enough to help with Melissa's Perth book tour event held at the Raw Kitchen in Fremantle. It was a truly beautiful evening with so many amazing women ready to master their mean girl. The evening started with an introduction by the lovely Samantha, Melissa's bestie and business manager. She shared her personal journey of escaping parts of herself by travelling the world, moving city to city. She like so many, was inspired by Melissa's story and so began her path to healing parts of herself that she had been running away from.
Melissa came on stage and began with a fun dance to some music before settling down and guiding us through a beautiful meditation. It was a beautiful evening as Melissa shared with us what her book Mastering Your Mean Girl is all about.
She explained that:
* In every moment we have the ability to choose love or fear
* Mastering your mean girl is a moment to moment practice
* In order to master your mean girl you have to have your internal GPS set squarely on love
* To master our mean girl we must not banish her, but rather lovingly tell her she is not needed
Melissa explained that our mean girl is there to keep us safe. She has the intention to make sure we stay in our comfort zone, so that we are not put in danger. Whilst the mean girl may seem like a perfectly logical and sensible voice in our head, the problem is that when we listen to her we are holding ourselves back from living a big, beautiful life. When we continue to listen to our mean girl we are denying ourselves to follow our passions and dreams because of the limiting beliefs that she tells us. She is there to keep us safe, protected and small so that we are not able to grow or evolve. Because of this our mean girl will tell us stories, and she can do a pretty good job at making us believe this.
Our mean girl tells us that we are not:
But the reality is that these things are not true.
The question is are you willing to listen to her and those limiting beliefs which are potentially stopping you from doing what you want in life? Yep our mean girl can be pretty clever, all in the name of keeping us safe. Once we can differentiate our mean girl's voice from our heart and intuition (which is more of a deep inner knowing in our body rather than a voice in our head) we can start to see how often she pops up and actually hear what she is saying to us. Once we have this awareness we can lovingly and assertively close the door on her and continue on with creating and living our amazing life.
Melissa shared three words that are not in her vocabulary- should, can't and busy. She said no matter what she does, she wants to do everything bursting with love, and if not she doesn't do it. She said 'if its a not a hell yes! its a hell no', imagine if we all lived from this place of authenticity and love! She also said that we have come to over glorify the word 'busy'. When we are constantly busy we can't truly appreciate life and all the beautiful experiences we are here to have. We need to take time out for ourselves, do what gives us joy and makes us burst with love. When we can live from this space we are truly living an authentic life as the best version of ourselves.
After a quick break Melissa had the group split in half, the inside group was asked to close their eyes, while the outside group walked around and whispered in each girls ear something they wished they would have been told when they were younger. It was such a beautiful and powerful exercise, the energy in the room lifted and there was this incredible feeling of love. Once the outside group had finished the groups swapped and this time the outside group was asked to stand in the middle while the inside group made their way around the room and shared their wisdom.
At the end of the evening the the energy had lifted, the room felt lighter, and a sense of deep gratitude was felt for the beautiful wisdom that Melissa had shared. The night ended with Melissa inviting everyone to do a book signing with all the ladies who attended.
It was such a pleasure to meet all the wonderful ladies who were Melissa's Go to Girls for the night. Each one of these beautiful ladies were so friendly, caring and there to help make the event really special. A great team effort by everyone involved.
Perth ladies if you attended I'd love to hear what you thought of the event. What did you get out of hearing Melissa speak about Mastering Your Mean Girl?
What 'aha' moments did you have?
I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
Love Jasmin xx