Last week I was drawn to a book I've been reading on and off for a few months called 'The Untethered Soul' by Michael A. Singer. It's a beautifully written book exploring our inner journey, how to find freedom of our habitual thought patterns and emotions and how to awaken our true consciousness. If you haven't read it I highly recommend it. Personally I have found that if I have not been in the right from of mind to read it the content can be a bit heavy at times, so just make sure you create the space to read this book and fully absorb the information. I have found that I read a couple of chapters at a time and then take time away to allow myself to really absorb the knowledge.
So today I wanted to share a very new process that I have been following based on knowledge that I have gained from his book. I honestly can't even explain how much it has changed my life. In such a short time I have been able to release attachment from thoughts that I had had about my breakup for over six months! This has meant my energy has been stronger, my life purpose and vision stronger and most importantly I have been emotionally a lot more balanced and content, even when I felt like I have wanted to sink back into old patterns and replay old stories in my head.
It was in chapter 7 -'Transcending the Tendency to Close' that I had a huge light bulb moment. In this chapter he talks about how our thoughts create feelings, which create a flow of energy. If the energy enters your consciousness and all of your awareness gets focused on these thoughts, the more power you actually feed your thoughts. So the more awareness and focus you create around those thoughts the more they become charged with energy and eventually the more power you give these thoughts.
But remember our thoughts are not our reality. They are merely ideas that we have about experiences we have in our life.
When our thoughts replay old stories about the past, they can after a prolonged period create feelings of depression in our body. This is due to focusing on thoughts which are not in the present moment and create low vibrating energy in the body. We may also compare our present moment experiences to our past experiences and place judgement on where we are in our life. This is especially true if you are experiencing less excitement, adventure or joy in your life. It is important to remember that this is a normal process and just part of the ebb and flow of our life. It is not possible for us to always be excited, full of joy and happiness ALL of the time. We experience so many different emotions throughout different stages of our lives, and that is totally ok. If you can learn to appreciate this, then you will be able to experience times when you are not as happy with knowing that this too shall pass.
On the other hand we may find ourselves in a state of panic or anxiety when our thoughts are based around the future. 'Future tripping' is such a common thought process that so many of us experience, especially during uncertain times. I know my biggest triggers for anxiety are when I am holding on to an experience that isn't serving me. In the past those experiences have been jobs, relationships, education and career decisions that I have made. I put a lot of pressure on myself to have everything in my life figured out, to control and determine certain outcomes and to be this version of perfection which I knew was unobtainable anyway. It caused me a lot of emotional pain, unease and so much discomfort! I still have a long way to go in this inner journey of mine, but I have honestly felt so much more free, alive, present and deep gratitude for allowing myself to just trust the process.
So the more awareness that we can create around our thoughts and the energy surrounding these thoughts, the easier it becomes for us to actually release attachment to our thoughts. By releasing attachment to our thoughts we dissolve the limitations that we have placed on ourselves by believing these thoughts in the first place. While releasing attachment to our thoughts does involve awareness it does not involve control, as trying to control our thoughts in itself just creates more tension, unease and energy around the exact thoughts that we are trying to release. Pure freedom and peace comes when we can experience our thoughts, create awareness around them and them gently release them as they stream through our consciousness.
'Only you can take inner freedom away from yourself, or give it to yourself.' -Michael A. Singer
So how does this relate to our day to day life you may ask? It's all well and good to be a conscious and aware person, but we don't live in a bubble- we live in the real world. We come in to contact with so many different people and can feel triggered by their behaviour every single day. Whether we are driving home and someone cuts us off, or we experience a customer being rude at work. These experiences might make us angry, sad or just simply pissed off. We create thoughts around these experiences, which create feelings and as a result negative energy in the body.
So what can we do to become aware of our thoughts without reacting to them?
1. Firstly become aware of your thoughts.
2. Ground yourself in your body by taking a big deep breath.
3. You may feel the shift in energy in your body as you feel yourself reacting to a certain situation. It may feel like a slight discomfort in your throat or stomach or chest. With a bit of practise you will be able to sense into where these feelings arise in for you.
4. Now relax, and take a deep breath.
5. Release the thoughts and allow the energy to move through you.
Play around with this practise and see how it feels for you. In the book Michael talks about how we can simply and effectively make this practise into a game. Every time you feel yourself reacting, stop- let the energy move through you and it let go. See every trigger as an opportunity to practise letting go.
When we stop attacking, judging and fighting the mind, we can create true inner peace. When you feel the pull to react to the change in energy just let it go. It's not about resisting or trying to stop the thoughts (because we can't control our thoughts). The freedom comes in making the choice to not getting sucked into the energy and reacting to our thoughts and choose to let the feeling go with ease.