When we are faced with difficult and challenging experiences in our life, resistance and fear can rear their ugly heads. During times when we experience heartbreak or loss our ego can make us doubt our future and where we are headed especially when we are walking down the spiritual path. When we buy into the ego's stories and live from a place of fear naturally we create feelings inside us that are both negative and confusing at the same time. All of these things can create a range of negative and often mixed emotions and we can feel trapped, lonely, hopeless and worried about what the future holds.
The last couple of months I've been feeling all these things, with the ending of my relationship with my long term boyfriend I have found myself once again in uncharted waters. So many self limiting beliefs I had about myself, my sense of worth and who I am have cracked me open even further than I had previously experienced. I have felt immense heartache, pain and loss as I come to terms with the reality of a relationship that had reached its expiry date.
As I have navigatedthrough each difficult and painful experience in my life I know I am continuing to grow on a deep personal and spiritual level, gently being guided closer to my purpose and leaning in and feeling all of my emotions. Most importantly I am discovering who I am and what I really want from life, but all of this hasn't been easy. As with any personal goals committing to a spiritual journey and discovering the good, the bad and the ugly about yourself can at times be a bitter pill to swallow. It's not easy admitting the way you acted in a relationship didn't bring at your best self, or that those self limiting beliefs and patterns that played out in your life were no longer serving you. When we choose the spiritual path we have to be ready to face the music and make some big changes.
At times I have often wanted to throw in the towel and give up, choose to go back to my old beliefs and way of living so that I didn't have to face the music. At each point in my life where I have felt the resistance and experienced the fear of looking deeper inside myself I also have become more intrigued. I have asked myself why am I here? what is my purpose in life? and most importantly how can I share with the world my experiences and lessons so as to make the world a better place?
It's during these times of deep personal reflection we often gain clarity, perspective and purpose but how can we navigate through those darker times when we are feeling lost?
So today I want to share with you some of my tools for staying on your spiritual journey. Whether you are also going through a relationship breakup, problems at work or feeling stuck in your life, these tools have helped me continue my inner work as I continue the journey on my spiritual path.
Meditation is seriously one of the best ways to come back to your centre and reconnect with your inner self. Having suffered crippling anxiety throughout my life, meditation has been my miracle cure! Meditation will relax you and ground you in your body. Even some deep belly breaths can be super beneficial during times of stress, anxiousness and feeling emotionally all over the place.
As females it is in our DNA to create life so naturally we are creative beings! Being creative is not only a whole lot of fun but also brings us back to our centre and connects us to who we truly are. I know when I am immersed in creative projects I feel grounded, in the present moment and totally in tune with my creative flow. Being creative doesn't mean you have to be artistic or talented in any way, we can all be creative in our own right. The key to getting into your creative flow is finding something creative that works for you. You may enjoy creating a new playlist for the gym, gardening or messing about with some paints. Personally I LOVE baking, journaling, and mandala colouring. Here are some other ways you may enjoy doing to get your creative juices flowing: pottery, jewellery making, mosaics, flower arranging, sewing or embroidery and dancing.
Movement is such a powerful and important way to not only flush toxins out of your body and stimulate the production of amazing endorphins but also to release any blocked energy. When I'm feeling disconnected or stuck in a rut I know energetically I have too many emotions (which is energy in motion) circling in my body. If I'm stuck for time I try and do some gentle stretches or a short circuit in my house, but my absolute fav is a long walk and coffee along the beach with a friend or intentional movement sessions with my amazing personal trainer Janine Farrow from My Favourite Day. (If your a Perth lady you must check her out she is AH-MAY-ZING!!) When I move my body I always feel more grounded and connected to myself.
When I'm feeling lost on my spiritual journey I immerse myself in lots of personal development or spiritual new age books. During the last couple of months of processing my relationship breakup I have been reading loads on relationships, personal growth and spirituality and everything in between. My book collection is always growing and expanding and what I love about delving into these types of books is that there is always so much knowledge and inspiration I gain from them. My sense of connection with myself grows, I create an understanding of a situation and help gain clarity and perspective rather than falling too much into victim mode, which is a really crappy place to be emotionally speaking.
Reflection is one of my absolute non negotiable spiritual practices. When we take the time to reflect on our thoughts and experiences we have the opportunity to gain great insight and perspective on our situation. When we feel lost and disconnected we can often feel like we are moving in the wrong direction in our life, so taking the time to reflect and really think about where we are headed can be a really positive tool. Reflection isn't about thinking about the past and trying to dissect every experience or moment in your life, it should be a gentle and peaceful process for you to think about your experiences and whether they are creating the life you truly want to live.
Having a daily gratitude practice is so important for our body, mind and soul. When we come from a place of gratitude we choose love over fear. We choose to love and accept ourselves, our lives and most importantly the present moment. Whether you are entirely happy in your current situation or not, having a daily gratitude practice will enable you to enjoy where you are right now <3
What do you do when you are feeling lost? Do you have a set of go to tools to help you navigate yourself through those times? I would love to hear in the comments below.
Love Jasmin xx
PS. If you are struggling on your spiritual journey and are wanting one on one help, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can have a chat about how my coaching packages may help you.